Struggles with Infertility

Being a parent is not something that everyone has as a goal in life. But once you decide that you want to be a parent, and you are unable to, your life can either unravel, or you can try to find meaning in your struggles. This blog is me trying to find meaning.

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Rollercoasters

When I last updated, I had just gone in for my LEEP after 10+ months of waiting for the appointment, causing a year long delay in our planned FET. LEEP day was a crappy day in itself and I was emotionally drained. I wanted off the rollercoaster. That didn't happen.

What happened next is that I called the fertility clinic to kick our file in to the active pile only to be told that I needed to do a Sonohysterogram (SHG). An SHG is essentially an ultrasound of the uterus that occurs while they are pumping a saline solution in to the uterine cavity and fallopian tubes. The purpose of it is to check for any abnormalities, such as fibroids, polyps or adhesions, which are contraindicated for pregnancy. I'm not sure if you recall, or have read that far back in my blog, but I have always had trouble with these tests because they can not seem to get a catheter through my cervix. Every HSG or SHG I've had done was performed under general anesthetic as part of a laparoscopy, primarily because of my cervix issues. So when I found out my SHG was scheduled for the morning of the day we were flying out for our vacation in Hawai'i, I was super pumped.

On January 7th, a month after my LEEP, and four hours before I departed for warmer weather, I went in for my SHG. The doctor was running late, which was a stress in itself, and of course she had problems getting the catheter in. All I could think was that I just wanted to get this over with so we could keep moving forward. After about 10 minutes, three tries, many whimpers and tears, and a doctor positioned in a sideways crouch on the floor, they were able to perform the SHG. And thankfully, everything looked normal. Checkmark.

The next step was waiting to make sure the borders of my LEEP were clean. I was told that if they were not clean, I would get a call to come in for a repeat LEEP in mid-January. Thankfully, while I was on the sunny beaches of Hawai'i, I did not get that call. My LEEP was successful. Checkmark.

I got home near the end of January, and my next big thing was getting the hardware out of my elbow on February 10th (installed following a bike crash I had last August that resulted in a broken elbow). However, before I could check that one off the list, I got a call from the fertility clinic. My doctor wanted a note from the Ob/Gyn that performed my LEEP saying I was good to proceed with FET. Getting notes such as these from an Ob/Gyn I've only met once is highly unlikely. So while I called and explained, begged and (seriously) cried to the nurse, I was unable to get anything out of the Ob/Gyn. Back on the rollercoaster. At this point, my anger at the ridiculous situation I was in caused me to almost give up. But thanks to the support I received from a few wonderful friends, I immediately picked myself up and continued to fight.

I was able to get copies of my LEEP report sent to my RE at the fertility clinic. So, despite being only about 30 hours post-op from getting all the pins and wire removed from my elbow, I went in to see my RE this afternoon determined to make her agree that we understand the risks and want to move forward. And I was successful. In fact, the appointment started with her saying she had reviewed the LEEP report already and was comfortable with going forward. Checkmark!

So, we are off that rollercoaster and on to another. We're good to go for March and are on the list for FET. Depending on when AF shows, and if the clinic has room for us, we may be looking at a mid- to late March transfer. Regardless, it feels so good to have some forward progress again, even if it's going to be filled with more ups and downs.