Struggles with Infertility

Being a parent is not something that everyone has as a goal in life. But once you decide that you want to be a parent, and you are unable to, your life can either unravel, or you can try to find meaning in your struggles. This blog is me trying to find meaning.

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Winning

This post is a long time coming, but with the flu, colds, Christmas and travel, I have been so busy and worn out that I'm only getting a chance to write now.

Thank you all so, so much for your support during the SIRM IVF contest. We did not make the finals, which was a shock to us and many who voted for us. I honestly thought we would at least make the top ten and go to the final round, and I have to admit that I was more crushed then I expected to not even make it that far. However, reflecting on the experience, I think we did win in a way. The love, support, and words of kindness from family, friends and strangers showed us how loved we are. It was incredible to look at my Facebook feed and follow the shares of our video to see how far our story went. People we don't know on the other side of the planet wished us the best and voted for our video. So amazing.

As I mentioned, not making it to the finals did hit me harder then I expected. We also 'tried' this month, and of course, it didn't work. I couldn't help but get my hopes up though. That, combined with getting AF on Christmas Eve and suffering from horrible, horrible cramps this month made me an emotional mess. I was depressed and struggled to enjoy the day. I did come around after a couple of days, but I have to admit that I'm in a bit of a sad place right now with the whole TTC thing. We need to take a bit of a break from it all and regroup - focus on us for a little bit. Because really, that's the most important thing for us...each other.

Thursday, December 13, 2012

When words are inadequate

The Sher Institute of Reproductive Medicine (SIRM) occasionally runs contests for eligible couples to win a cycle of IVF. This time, Derek and I decided to enter. The contestants submit a four-ish minute video about their story and, starting this past Tuesday, December 11th, the videos went up for public vote. Once the voting ends, the top five to 10 videos are reviewed by a judging panel consisting of previous winners. The winner of the free cycle is announced on December 20.

Since we've posted our video, and since I've shared the contest link with friends and family, the response has been overwhelming. Actually, overwhelming doesn't even begin to describe how we feel. We feel honoured, inspired, lucky and thankful for all the wonderful, amazing, empathetic people out there, of all nationalities, sexes, backgrounds and what have you. My friends and family, and the amazing ladies in my Facebook and Fertility Friend buddy groups have been promoting us since the contest site went live. I look at my Facebook feed and see person after person posting the most amazing things about us and how we deserve this, and asking people who don't know us to support us by voting. And they do. And then they share with their friends. It's just...there are simply no words.

I feel like, even if we don't win, we'll still be ok. Why? Because of all of you. Your support, love, compassion and tears have worked to heal a piece of our hearts. Infertility is one of the toughest things a couple will go through, but just knowing there are so many people out there who genuinely care makes us feel less alone. So thank you.

To vote for us, follow this link and click on 'Jobson Family': I Believe

A direct link to our video is here (this is my Youtube page, not the Sher Institute page): We Believe - Derek and Emily Jobson